How to get Started

The first point of contact is an initial Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM). This is a confidential one-on-one session where the mediator can explain the principals and process of mediation as well as the other various options that are available to come to an agreement with your ex-partner. This is also where you can share details of your specific circumstances and where you can discuss with the mediator whether or not mediation will suit you and your family.

In the UK, under section 10(1) of the Children and Families Act of 2014, it is a requirement that any person who wants to bring a family matter before the court has to attend a MIAM before beginning court proceedings. There are a few exceptions to this which your solicitor can explain and establish if they apply to you. This is an opportunity to investigate whether or not mediation can be a better option for you, rather than taking the matter to court.

Whatever is discussed in this meeting remains between you and the mediator and the only time any information will be shared with the other client is if you specifically request that this be done. Everything that is spoken of here is privileged and cannot be shared in court.

Once both parties have met with the mediator for a MIAM and you feel that mediation could work for you, a joint meeting can be arranged where both of you will be in the same session together with the mediator to discuss how best to move forward and to set practical routines and processes in place.

If finances are to be discussed in mediation, you will be asked to provide detailed information before the first meeting.

If you are uncomfortable being in the same room, or on the same screen as your ex-partner, it is possible to make arrangements for mediation to occur with both of you in separate spaces. Please click here to make contact to set up an initial MIAM meeting.